MARRIAGE: UTILIZING THE FANTASY AND FICTION IN MOVIES AS A TOOL FOR A BETTER RELATIONSHIP (For Men)

Despite this, I have observed an interesting phenomenon: most married men can actually live in harmony with their wives or partners if they can turn their fantasies or fiction into reality.

The Power of Fantasy and Fiction

Hear me out. The term "fantasy" and "fiction" might suggest something unrealistic, but many of the actions depicted in romantic dramas and movies, often deemed "unrealistic," can indeed be realized.

Firstly, as a man, have you ever been made or "forced" to watch a romantic drama or movie by your wife? I know the answer is likely a resounding yes. So why not take the time to watch and pay attention? It’s just a one to two-hour movie that could change your life and make your marriage more harmonious.

When you watch these movies, you'll see clichéd scenes like a man buying flowers for his lady, washing dishes, taking out the garbage, serenading her with music, going to a club or party just to dance with her, saying "I love you" repeatedly, or expressing his love with romantic words after a fight. Tell me, which of these actions is unrealistic or unachievable in real life?

I say this because many men, a year or two into their marriage, become more like a son to their wife. What I mean is, once your wife starts nagging, you've become her teenage son. How, you ask? Remember when you were a teenager and your mom would shout and nag at you to pick up your clothes, wash them, or put them in the hamper? That is what you’ve turned your wife into. And then you complain that your wife nags too much.

When she nags "too much," does she just ramble words that have no meaning, or is she reminding you for the umpteenth time to do what you promised? I digress.

Small Gestures, Big Impact

To live harmoniously and have an everlasting marriage, you need to recognize the little things your wife likes. Buy her flowers, surprise her. Marriage shouldn’t be the reason you stop taking her out. When was the last time you told her she looks beautiful? Help her in the kitchen, do the chores she asked for, or even better, do them before she asks.

Secondly, there is often a complaint from married men about the lack of intimacy in their marriage. Well, many women’s sex drives are not the same as men’s, or as what she portrayed while you were dating. She doesn’t need to put out anymore; you’re married. For women, being in the mood takes more time and effort than just "removing your clothes and being ready" or rubbing up on her while she's trying to sleep after feeding you and your kids, clearing up the kitchen, bathing and putting the kids to bed, and possibly getting ready to do the same in the morning.

Building Intimacy

How do you achieve a healthy and active sex life in your marriage? Sometimes, to get the best out of an "intimacy" moment with your wife at night, your foreplay should start in the morning. A simple "Good morning, beautiful" and a kiss on the forehead goes a long way. Take over breakfast preparation if you can. If not, help in other ways like getting the kids ready for school.

In the afternoon, depending on the proximity of your office to hers, surprise her with lunch that you ordered. If your offices are not close, try ordering food from her favorite restaurant and have it delivered to her. If you don't have the budget, a simple call or message that you're thinking about her and can't wait to see her beautiful face at home can work wonders.

Take it up a notch by preparing for a babysitter or arranging someone to take care of the kids while you take her out for a surprise dinner. Tell her you want to help her destress from her workday, not to go home and start making dinner for the family.

Thirdly, try Public Display of Affection (PDA). It works wonders. Don’t be shy; she’s already yours. Hold her hand, give her a kiss in public, or hug her unexpectedly. These small gestures show your love and appreciation and can make a big difference.

Enhancing Communication

Communication is another critical aspect of a successful marriage. Often, couples fall into the trap of poor communication, which leads to misunderstandings and resentment. Movies can offer lessons here too. In romantic films, couples often express their feelings openly and honestly, even if it leads to dramatic confrontations. While real life doesn't need to be so dramatic, the principle remains the same: communicate openly.

If something is bothering you, talk about it. If you feel unappreciated or overworked, let your partner know. At the same time, listen to her concerns. Effective communication is a two-way street. By actively listening to each other, you can address issues before they become major problems.

The Importance of Being Vulnerable

One of the most powerful lessons from romantic movies is the importance of vulnerability. Characters in these films often share their deepest fears, insecurities, and dreams with each other, creating a bond that is unbreakable. This level of emotional intimacy can be achieved in real life too.

Share your fears and tribulations with your wife. Let her know what's on your mind, what you're worried about, and what you're striving for. Being vulnerable doesn't make you weak; it strengthens your bond and fosters a deeper connection.

Overcoming Challenges Together

Marriage is not without its challenges. There will be times when things get tough, and it feels like the world is against you. During these times, it’s crucial to remember the foundation of your relationship – love, respect, and understanding.

When conflicts arise, approach them with a mindset of teamwork. It's not you versus your wife; it's both of you versus the problem. By working together, you can overcome any obstacle.

In conclusion, to improve your marriage, pay attention to the little things. Buy her flowers, surprise her, compliment her, help her with chores, and be affectionate. Understand that intimacy requires effort and thoughtfulness. Show her love and appreciation consistently, and your marriage will likely flourish.

Lastly, take walks with her and share your fears and tribulations. Being vulnerable can strengthen your bond. Try these suggestions and see how they work for you. Marriage might not be as daunting as it seems if you put in the effort to make your fantasies a reality.

I hope you enjoyed this read as I have.

See you next time here at AureenE Studio.